On the matter of reminding to mind the manners…I found a great little product at www.savingdinner.com yesterday. A simple download of cards with one manner listed on each. The parent reads the little rhyme and focuses on a single manner for that meal. Look for Manner Minders on the left side of the website. I plan to laminate mine and keep them in the middle of the table. As long as no one runs off with them, it should work great!