I think I learned more about changing behavior in my undergraduate psych lab training rats than I did in graduate school. We had the daunting task of teaching an animal that can’t speak (besides a squeak!) how to play basketball with a marble. As you look to your homeschool future, your task may seem just as difficult.
Before we did any rat training, we took one very crucial step that we often neglect in our homeschooling: we kept them hungry.
Well-fed rats aren’t motivated to do anything because they’re already being rewarded with what they want most. Rats that are a little hungry (not weak with starvation) are very attentive to anything that earns them a food pellet. The hungry rat that I trained with my partner very quickly learned to press a bar, peek through a window, swing on a trapeze, and yes, play basketball with a marble–all with no lectures.
Children that can communicate with us should be capable of learning a great deal more, but often they don’t. Why? They aren’t hungry.
Why Kids Aren’t Hungry to Learn
Today’s children are being fed a steady diet of things more rewarding than learning. Reading, painting, discovering, experimenting, acting, writing, computing, solving, and creating are naturally rewarding activities. But these treats can’t compare with the taste of electronics. If you’re meticulous about keeping your kids away from screen time, good for you! But if you’re an average American family, your kids still may be full on the rewards of a prosperous lifestyle. Toys, games, trips, treats, and entertainment aren’t just for special occasions anymore. Even if you refrain from giving your children too much, you may have relatives who fill the gap.
In a year, an average first-grader buys or receives 70 new toys.
A rat who isn’t hungry won’t be bothered to press a bar for a food pellet and a child who isn’t hungry to learn won’t be bothered to read.
How Can We Keep ‘Em Hungry?
I live in the same keep-em-fed world you do and I’m constantly looking for strategies to keep my kids hungry to learn. Here are a few that I use or would like to:
- Limit screen time. This has been my biggest challenge in a house full of boys. Lately the challenge has been having friends call or come over and want to play games and I cave. My plan is to let their friends know when games are off-limits.
- Limit gifts. When you can’t think of anything to buy your child (been there!), they have too much. I have made some attempts in this area, but want to be even more vocal about requesting time with people they love. Time learning together is a double gift!
- Say no. Deprivation makes the reward all the sweeter. Saying no is a good idea even when the request is positive. Rewards that are given constantly lose their power to motivate behavior.
- Make them earn rewards. If kids have free access to lots of stimulating, fun activities that have little educational value, motivation disappears. Educational games should be used as dessert, not the main course.
- Offer less appealing alternatives. Allowing my reluctant reader to choose between reading and worksheets has helped him develop a great reading habit. Use the choice between undesirable chores or busy work and the subject you want your child to focus on to keep her hungry.
- Let them get bored. Just like few people know what it’s like to be really hungry anymore, few of us are familiar with real boredom. To find stomach hunger, you may have to go without food for hours (or days!). To help your kids find true boredom, you may have to go without screens, noise, toys, or outside playmates. Consider making a day of your homeschool week a day of fasting from all these “fast-food treats” so you can rediscover how delicious learning really is. I’m definitely considering it.
they have become rich and powerful and have grown fat and sleek. Their evil deeds have no limit; they do not seek justice. (Jeremiah 5:27b-28).
I’ll be honest. I have some fat rats at home. I think my belly is protruding, too! Do you have any other ideas on how I can keep my kids hungry to learn? Just a quick caveat. I think it would be easy to leave our little rugrats weak from starvation, too. A little fun and game time gives kids the energy they need to get serious about studying.
You have a great point, most kids are over-saturated with passive entertainment- I never thought to equate it with a sort of hunger, but yes, the parallels to your experience with the rat hold true. We’ve noticed when we’ve had behavior/attitude problems with our son in particular, that totally shutting down electronic entertainment really changes how he interacts with everyone.
Thanks, Jenn. I appreciate your comment about your son and electronic entertainment. It’s a constant issue for me with five boys. I have to rely on my husband to be the bouncer. 😉 He sends the kids outside and declares video vacations quite regularly.
70 new toys? lol
I find these tricks work for me too. if I’m not allowed on to the internet, I get an amazing amount of housework done. 😉
Jacq, I depend on my husband to keep me appropriately hungry for the better things in life. He insists I get offline and get out with the family. Yep, 70 toys. Christmas, birthday parties, Valentine’s, Easter, party favors, and Happy Meal toys add up quickly!
Thanks so much for linking up your blog to my homeschool list. Glad to find you & read yours. Love the ideas in this post!
You’re welcome, Karyn. I’m glad you found something useful in it!
This was great. I had not thought of boredome in that way before. I would suggest one more thing. Expose them only to the best of everything. The masters of art, music, literature, poetry, science,etc. when kids are exposed to the highest quality, they acquire a taste for learning and learn to love and appreciate beauty. We use a true Charlotte Madon approach in our school, and we cannot get enough. My tenth graders favorite author is Winston Churchill. Who would have thought?! So, adding this to giving them a hunger equates Kids who love to learn!
You really make an excellent point, Adrienne. We can create appetites in our kids for great things…or not. I have a tenth grader, too, who is studying European history. They should chat. 🙂
Thank you so much for this article. I really needed the reminder. My children are, as I write, watching a video online. I have such a hard time limiting screen time as you mentioned. it is a constant struggle and SO hard to say no. I used to be so good at it, but something happened between kids #3 and 4, LOL. This is a great analogy that I will not forget. I should probably post a pic of a rat on my computer screen as a reminder.
You’re welcome, Jill. I love the idea of a rat on your computer screen. 🙂 A funny for you: my mom thought screen time meant having the windows open and she couldn’t figure out why I wanted the kids to have less of it. LOL Check out my personal blog for ideas on getting the kids away from the computer. It’s been really great for me. I’ve had to spend a little money on stuff to get them interested in being outside, but I figure games are expensive, too! This is a better use of my cash. Thank you so much for stopping by.